Woman Dresses In Traditional Garb To Wedding And The Bride’s Mother Is Furious

A wedding is one of the most important events that we will have in our lifetime. We want everything to go smoothly during that special day, but we can also expect problems from time to time.

Many of the problems we may have during our wedding come from miscommunication. If we don’t let people know our expectations, we can hardly expect that they will follow them to the letter.

That is what happened in the following wedding, and the mother of the bride was not happy. In fact, she was so angry that she wouldn’t even take an apology. Read on to find out more.

So I, 27F, am a black African woman. I’m living and working in Germany for a fixed period on secondment. While here, I became quite friendly with a colleague, 60F, and she invited me to her daughter’s wedding. I was excited as I’ve never been to a white wedding. I asked if there was a dress code/colour scheme to adhere to since it wasn’t specified on the invite. I was told the code is “dress to impress”. Bet.

Day of the wedding, I understand the assignment. I wear my traditional wear, which is really beautiful and obviously not German. The garment is green, so np problem there. Or so I thought. I get a lot of questions and compliments at the wedding, which I genuinely downplay because its not my day.

My colleague seems colder than usual but I pay it no mind since she’s mother of bride and could be preoccupied. The bride is downright rude to me, but again i give her grace. I congratulate her and thank her for including me and I get a tight 😐 in response.

I keep to the edges of the room as the music isn’t really my vibe, and I’m just observing how European weddings work. I leave around 8 (after 5 hours) and go home before the wedding finishes.

Monday I walked into whispers in the office, people actually strangely and more reserved than usual. An office friend pulls me aside and fills me in: brides mother is fuming. My outfit was too extravagant, OTT and inappropriate. I drew attention from the bride and commandeered the room: I was rude and disrespectful. She’s told people all about it, apparently.

I approach MOB and ask to speak but she says she has nothing to say to me. I ask her why she has sth tk say everyone else about me but not to me, and she calls me an insolent child. I explain to anyone who scolds me that this was my first white people wedding: I specifically asked what to do wear and followed the guidelines. Where I’m from, there’s no such thing as outshines g the bride – weddings are a fashion show and a chance to wear your best and brightest clothes. They told me this isn’t africa (which was racially coded) nd people here have manners. I laughed and told that person to go to hell, so she’s telling people I lack remorse for my behaviour.

I’m wondering if I really am the asshole though?

Edit: the dress inspo I showed to my tailor is now on my profile to help you.

Edit 2:

I’m about to board a flight. Someone told me to go back to my country so I’m doing just that 😆😆😆

Thanks for the feedback. I’m guessing not the a**hole but could have inquired further/done research – fair.

Some of yall are so pressed about the WP wedding – it literally means it’s the first wedding I’ve been to where the bride, groom, and wedding party are white. It’s really not that deep.

Thanks for the engagement and see ya 😊