Man Laments Divorcing Wife Just Before 10 Year Wedding Anniversary for ‘Dream Girl’

A marriage is a problematic relationship to keep together, especially when you’re not willing or able to give 100 percent of yourself to the commitment. So often, men and women are looking for “greener pastures” outside of their relationship only to feel more alone than ever when they realize that’s just an illusion. In this story, a man leaves his wife of 14 years just five months before their 10th wedding anniversary.

According to the man (let’s call him “John), he and his wife (let’s call her “Susan”) have a ten-year-old daughter and six-year-old son together. Because of the nature of his work, he often traveled far from home and would often stay in hotels. That is how he met a woman named Anna.

Over time he and Anna got to know each other, became friends on Facebook, and began sending each other messages day and night. Anna was also married and had two children, but they had so much in common the two fell in love. He said it felt like she “got” him.

During this time in his marriage, he says he wasn’t happy. John never looked forward to coming home. Susan had gained weight, they barely spoke, and she always seemed miserable.

He didn’t realize that he was the cause of her frustration and depression.

John never paid any attention to her and took her for granted, wishing for a more exciting life with someone else. He began spending all his free time romancing Anna online and thinking of a way to “get out” of his marriage.

The man convinced himself that his wife didn’t love him nor ever cared about him or his needs, wants, and desires. John believed that all he was to Susan was a paycheck.

However, his wife spent all her free time taking care of him and their family, making dinner, doing laundry, making school lunches, helping their children with homework, and all of the things he never became involved in within their lives, such as school sports.

Every time Susan talked to him, John could hear whining and nagging.

But, later, John realized that she was begging him for more attention, just a weekend together, a date night, or a movie. He admits that he did all these things with Anna instead after he abandoned his family.

John and Susan used to argue and fight because they didn’t listen to each other. He realized that if he had only taken the time to listen, things could have been different.

After leaving his family, the man moved to a different province with Anna, and Susan took custody of their children. John started seeing them every second weekend.

New Beginnings and Life Was Sweet

John and Anna had a great relationship in the bedroom. He also felt a connection with her he never had with his ex-wife. They shared a large group of friends, his family loved her, and even his children liked her.

However, Susan could never stand being in the same room with Anna. She felt betrayed.

He said that he used to hate her even more for being so “childish.” John called her “selfish,” saying that she never cared about him or his happiness. He admitted that he didn’t care how Susan felt when he posted pictures of him and Anna on his Facebook. Now that John had Anna, he thought he’d finally found the life he always wanted.

Over time, John and Anna had been together for over seven years but had never married — that just wasn’t their thing.

After spending 14 years with Susan, he believed that he’d given everything he could, and there was nothing they could have done to save their marriage. He thought Anna was his future and the person he was meant to spend the rest of his life with.

However, soon he realized that the honeymoon between him and Anna was over.

The two began to argue more and more, and one day he came to a stunning realization that if he treated Anna the way he treated his ex-wife during their marriage, she wouldn’t stay with him another minute.

Soon his feeling about his ex-wife began to change as he realized that he was the problem all along. He never gave her a chance to know how he felt. He ended his marriage years ago based on his selfish desires, convincing himself that she was not the woman he wanted. He also convinced his friends and family that Susan was a toxic person!

Regrets

By the time John realized he was wrong, he’d missed the best part of his children’s lives.

He missed coming home to be a family. He allowed their mom to fight and struggle to raise them all by herself. Yes, he did pitch in financially, but as a man living outside his home, he had no idea how much it cost the single mom to raise their children all alone. While Anna and John enjoyed steaks on the weekends, his ex-wife had to make every dollar count sticking to the most meager sustenance for herself.

But, Susan never complained, never asked for more money. She never kept John from seeing his kids. He never said no when he changed plans at the last minute. She even gave up her weekends so that his mom could spend more time with her grandchildren. She allowed him to continue his “free” life with Anna, despite killing her inside.

Like many new relationships, he and Susan’s marriage started well, but he decided to leave her for someone else when things got complicated. He came to realize that the woman he divorced would do anything for him, but he convinced himself that she was selfish.

Susan had been single for eight years. While she dated, she never became involved with anyone. The fact that she was still single seemed to affirm in John’s mind that no one could put up with her for very long and that he’d made a wise decision in leaving. However, he soon realized that she stayed single to focus on raising their children.

Too Little, Too Late

One day, Susan met a man named Craig. John never believed that his ex-wife meeting someone else to take his place would make him so upset. He figured he’d be happy that she found a new boyfriend, but he was wrong. John was deeply hurt and felt jealous. He was even angry, feeling in some way he’d been betrayed.

Soon, Susan moved in with Craig along with the kids. She quickly established a new loving home with her new family, including his children. This was a very bitter pill for John to swallow.

After so many years, he finally understood how she felt, and the feeling was pretty rotten.

John started searching through Facebook, reading posts made by mutual friends discussing how Craig spoiled his ex-wife and his children.

Craig and Susan spent one weekend on a beach. Craig taught John’s son how to surf, they all went hiking in Burg. Then, they traveled to Mauritius were on a kayak. Craig proposed to Susan, and of course, she said yes!

The two were soon married, with John’s daughter serving as their bridesmaid and his son serving as a groomsman. Craig’s parents and brother welcomed Susan and her children into their family with open arms. They told everyone how lucky they were to have them as family.

For the first time in many years, Susan radiated with happiness and love, and none of it was for John.

None of it.

It felt like John’s heart was being ripped apart.

He said to himself it “it should have been me!”

Today John has a simple message for anyone out there thinking of doing what he did, he said:

You can also watch a video about a similar story to this one involving a man who left his wife only find karmic justice waiting for him down the road.

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