The breakup of a relationship is one of the most difficult things we will ever have to go through in life. There are times when it can be very ugly, and that is what happened in the following story.
The person was going through a difficult time because he broke up with his fiancée and she refused to give back the engagement ring. She said that she would give it back, but only if he paid a price.
He was so upset that he went on Reddit to ask people if he handled the situation properly. Did he? Read his story and you be the judge.
So I [m23] recently got out of a relationship with my ex-fiancée ‘Mara’ [f23]. We were together for 3 years and engaged for 4 months. I called off the engagement and eventually broke up with Mara due to her cheating on me and lying about various things unrelated to the cheating. I think people deserve second chances but my final straw was when I found out she had been cheating on me with her own stepbrother and I knew I had to walk away.
In a nutshell, the break-up was very volatile. There was lots of arguing and her trying to bargain with me and I asked her to leave my apartment.
My family was very disappointed when they found out. My parents really wanted me to marry Mara. When we first started dating, my mom gave me a family heirloom ring to propose to Mara with. Its value is sentimental, it’s not made of any particularly expensive materials like gold or diamond.
My mom is now asking for the ring back but I never got it back off of Mara. Once things had cooled off I did ask Mara for the ring. She asked why she should give it back, hinting that she wanted payment. I offered her $40 and she demanded $300 plus my laptop and PS5, and threatened to pawn the ring.
I called her bluff and said she’s getting $40 or nothing. She said “have it your way” and shut the door in my face, and said she’s pawning it.
I explained the situation to my mom. My mom was very angry that I didn’t immediately pay up to Mara to get it back by any means necessary and asked if my laptop and playstation were more important than a family heirloom. I told her that Mara probably wouldn’t have given it back anyway and likely already lost or pawned it. She demanded that I contact my ex immediately and offer her what she wants.
I told her no and that I’m not doing it on principle. This caused an argument between me and my mom and she thinks I am being a bad son. Am I the a**hole for refusing to buy the ring back?
