We all need to make decisions in life but there are times when those decisions affect more than just us. In addition, a decision that we make today may not be the best thing for us tomorrow, and it could come back to haunt us.
One man found this out all too well when he fell in love with a wedding planner and told his bride-to-be that their relationship was over. That wedding planner, who was also a man, had become close to him and the two of them formed a romantic relationship.
Although that relationship came and went, the pain that was left behind from the disturbance that he caused continued to be an issue. Read his letter below, as it shows just how difficult it is, many years later.
Years ago, I was engaged to a woman I loved. We thought we had our whole lives planned out. We discussed everything. We knew how many kids we wanted and where we wanted to live.
But I didn’t realize that though I loved her, I wasn’t being true to myself. We hired a party planner to help with the wedding and she introduced us to a designer. I knew from the moment I met him that I shouldn’t be marrying my fiancée. He and I began spending lots of time together, my wife got suspicious and we broke up before we’d spent too much money on the wedding that was never going to happen.
For years she refused to speak to me. She married, had children and moved on with her life. My life got complicated. I dated the designer for a while, but when the novelty wore off, I recognized I didn’t really enjoy the gay party scene and still craved a quiet, family home. I stayed in my lane for years, looking for Mr. Right, but never found him.
About a year ago, I met a woman who stole my heart. Her husband had passed away when her two children were just babies, and she was lonely, kind and warm. I was honest with her from almost our first encounter. Now we’re together and life is good.
But in the past two months, I’ve bumped into my ex three times and each time is more awkward than the last. Why can’t I just be civil and friendly? Why do I freeze?
I need help.
