One of the most important days of our life is the day we get married. It’s the day when we stand up with our significant other and all of the attention is on us.
That is why the bride is always dressed differently than the bridesmaids, and it is often up to the bride to choose how they will dress. In this particular case, however, the bride wanted the bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses.
She may have made that choice but it didn’t sit well with everyone. Read on to find out what happened when the smoke cleared.
Taking to the Help! I’m Getting Married Facebook group, where people preparing for the big day can ask questions, get advice and chat wedding tips, one woman said: “I’m a bit confused do the bridesmaids pay for their dresses or does the bride pay?”
Many have pointed out that the bride should pay, as it was she who selected her bridesmaids for the big day.
One person said: “Bride and groom pay for everything for the wedding party.”
Another agreed and said: “My bridesmaids aren’t paying for a thing. I asked them so they shouldn’t be expected to.”
A third simply said: “Definitely the bride.”
Others went above and beyond, pointing out that the bride should also pay for hotel rooms for their bridesmaids on the night of the wedding alongside the price of getting their hair and makeup done.
One said: “Paying for everything, hair makeup, dresses, and rooms, don’t want them to spend on anything that’s needed, I’ve gift boxes for the morning that will have their jewellery and hair accessories in too.”
A second bride-to-be said: “I’m paying for my bridesmaids’ dresses, hair, makeup, bags and jewellery and the girls will get their own shoes.”
A third added: “I had three bridesmaids and I paid for everything. Dresses, shoes, bags, jewellery and hair and makeup and I paid for the hotel stay the night before the wedding because we were getting married in the hotel.”
Others pointed out that there are “no rules” and it’s up to the bride and her bridesmaids to decide.
One said: “There are no rules, as long as everyone knows from the start where they stand. It’s all down to what your budget is.
“We paid for our bridesmaids dresses, hair, make up and room for the night, also gift of jewellery.”
One pointed out that the rules seem to differ by country but in Ireland, it normally down to the bride to pick up the cost of bridesmaids’ dresses.
She said: “Here in Ireland the bride pays. I’ve been in five weddings in the US and had to pay for my dress, shoes, hair, makeup, etc. But that doesn’t seem to be done here.”
Others disagreed and said bridesmaids should pay for their own dresses as brides already face demanding bills and huge stress over their big day.
One said: “My sister in law is having eight bridesmaids we are paying for our own dresses.”
Another said: “My bridesmaids are buying their own dresses as I just told them the colour of the dress and they pick the one they love, they show me.”
She joked: “I don’t want three flower vases as bridesmaids.”
